I was wondering if he [Akhenaten] was like his statues in real life.
It's highly unlikely Akhenaten even remotely resembled the unique and bizarre statues and reliefs for which he is famous. So distinctive are these forms that they are principally used to illustrate the pharaoh on web pages or in magazine articles or books written about him. Neglected in much literature is the later Amarna statuary of Akhenaten, which depicts him as a quite ordinary-looking man.
Egyptologists still argue over precisely why many of these statues and reliefs depict him in such an odd form. The old theories that he suffered from a disease like Marfan's Syndrome have lost a lot of ground, but the debate otherwise goes on. I favor the explanation held by probably most professionals in the field, who tell us this odd statuary form is probably a religo-artistic convention. By all accounts Akhenaten was obsessed with his worship of the Aten to the point that he deemed only himself out of all mankind as being fit to be its intermediary and representative, and was therefore himself fully divine.
Note that the deity Akhenaten favored above all others is completely androgynous; well, so are numerous Egyptian deities, but the Aten (the physical disk of the sun) is a perfect example of this. The highly unusual statuary of the early Amarna Period is likewise androgynous, containing both the masculine and the feminine in a single form. Sometimes it's even difficult in reliefs and statuary to distinguish Akhenaten from Nefertiti unless hieroglyphic inscriptions are present. The argument is that these odd statues reflect the divinely androgynous form of the deity that ruled from Akhetaten; Akhenaten wanted to appear as a divine personage to reflect the position in which he placed himself in Atenism.
That got terrible wordy. My apologies.
I just hope I got my point across.
Sorry to do this again, but it is not a concrete fact that they were father and son, although I believe theyw ere, it has yet to be proven completely (I think).
You're right, of course. There is as yet no conclusive proof of Tut's parentage, but Akhenaten and Kiya are still the leading contestants. Tut's mother is even less clear than his father, but it's highly doubtful she was Nefertiti. And Tut is definitely recorded as "King's son," so that narrows it down. I for one completely doubt it was Amunhotep III, who by all accounts was quite ill and weak by the late part of his reign; if the body identified as Amunhotep III is in fact him (that's not 100% certain), he was also rather obese in his "golden years." I also don't see it as being the mysterious Smenkaure, whose short reign came along too late for this. I think Akhenaten is the likeliest person as the father of Tutankhamun.
But in the end you're right. We still can't be sure.